So close...
Well, ugh,
So it was all set up, vid chat, alerted friends, comprise and I believed a clear understanding that we would be meeting on neutral ground, like a nice room.
I took a Uber to the address and found it was not neutral, next time I will have to google map and research first.
I had to call and tell them that I will not be seeing them and call another uber back home.
The first driver agreed to wait on the second one to show up, he totally knew what was going on and understood that I was not getting out (I was only slightly embarrassed, but his understanding of the situation and respect set me at ease).
Now I am actually down in the game two rides, FML.
This has to get better :(